Sunday, 26 December 2010
I know it's 27th, but here is the thing that there is no way it's late for saying Happy Christmas, if we really mean it from our heart, as a moment of us to be a new person, reborn and therefore it is everyday.
Last 25th, I went to church with all family members - and it feels so different compare to last year when I was in my grandparents' house in Frankfurt. That night during the mass, I feel my heartfelt gratitude to celebrate Christmas with my family again, father, mother and brother I love you.
MERRY CHRISTMAS ALL!
Get ready for the upcoming New Year 2011!
Tuesday, 21 December 2010
The good news is everybody's home. Apart from one our loveliest friend, Nini who studies in Canada. But all the "American" students are home this winter. Tutti, tutti, anchi'o! Yeah, it is going to be a bit awkward seeing all my friends in universities and I am just applying this year - but the good thing is that I feel motivated to meet them next year in United States! Another good news is we are meeting again this 23rd December - at a Christmas lunch held by one of our good friends.
I love to be around with friends, even in this busiest and most needed-writing-essays-time like this. And that's the point of going home, spending time with people you love, righty righty?
People love to be noticed. I love it too, but it is more than just being noticed - being confident and comfortable. They can get along. You wear something that makes you feel comfortable, your soul feels good and yourself indeed feel good too, it will at the end boost your confidence.
I need two stuffs that will make me feel that way, not that help me, because I think I already feel those ways but, never get enough. Let's call it wish list for Winter 2011.
I have a pair Oxford shoes, only a pair and that's not enough! I need more. I just love Oxford shoes, geez! You have no idea how I always stop whenever I see any kind of classy oxford, I gotta connection with Oxford shoes.
And the other one is furry coat. I have not found the one that really "calls" me - still trying. Hope am getting one this December, next week I gotta go round mia citta, Jakarta and find them. Me likey when it is about hunting things that I have craved for!
Hey you later!
Saturday, 18 December 2010
I have been working on my art supplement since this morning. I make kind of fashion pages on from my photo shoot with my Slavic twins, two of my best friends in the college. Fashion page is a real good combination of showing your skill on photography, concept making, styling, design and words-play, all together - and moreover combining them as an eye catching pages. Very interesting! One of my another best friends who is pretty artsy and is applying to art schools told me that I should consider to take Photojournalist in the college, since she saw me capable of taking picture and giving a suitable title on it, it is indeed considerable since I would love to learn more about Journalism with a combination of Political Science and Economics - see I just want to do so many things in life. And this is also why colleges in the USA such a perfect destination for me since we are allowed to learn as much as we want not specifically to a major at the beginning.
Later in this post, I will show you some of 300 photos that have been selected to fill the fashion pages, but not the page. I don't think it is quite proper to put it here, it is like putting your personal statement on your blog, ridiculous. Apart from it, I have issues with originality, I feel like lately some of my styles and ideas were copied by some people that have common interests like I do - so you know, it is indeed unpleasant knowing someone kind of steal my fruit of thoughts again.
The general theme of the pages is about something you need. Something you need in life in order to make you survive; love, friendship, happiness and also education! Have to tell you something that one of my photos won the UN Chronicle Picture Education Photo Contest 2010. And it makes me proud, obviously it is a UN people who decided it.
All right, if I got accepted to one of seven universities that I am applying, I will send post the photos. The notification will be on March tho and you know, time's ticking so fast.
Bye for now.
I love her laugh. She is the toughest and kind-hearted girl in the college!
p.s: I will try to make more photo sessions if I have time, since so many other things interest me .
Wednesday, 10 November 2010
I haven't blogged for such a long time, but I think this post is really worth to consider. This morning I just got an email from my father. It is about Obama's visit to Jakarta. He lived there for 4 years, since his mother got married with an Indonesian man. My dad wrote:
Title of email: Transkrip Pidato Obama/ Trancript of Obama's Speech
Body: Pidato ini sangat inspiratif dan luar biasa (This speech is very inspiring and wonderful) . I attended that occasion at Balairung UI, ini transkripnya kalau mau baca (here is the transcript if you want to read).
p.s: It is long but so worth reading, I highlited some lines that I think really meaningful, so take your time!
Office of the Press Secretary
EMBARGOED UNTIL DELIVERY
November 10, 2010
Remarks of President Barack Obama - As Prepared for Delivery
November 10, 2010
As Prepared for Delivery—
Thank you for this wonderful welcome. Thank you to the people of Jakarta. And thank you to the people of Indonesia.
I am so glad that I made it to Indonesia, and that Michelle was able to join me. We had a couple of false starts this year, but I was determined to visit a country that has meant so much to me. Unfortunately, it’s a fairly quick visit, but I look forward to coming back a year from now, when Indonesia hosts the East Asia Summit.
Before I go any further, I want to say that our thoughts and prayers are with all of those Indonesians affected by the recent tsunami and volcanic eruptions – particularly those who have lost loved ones, and those who have been displaced. As always, the United States stands with Indonesia in responding to this natural disaster, and we are pleased to be able to help as needed. As neighbors help neighbors and families take in the displaced, I know that the strength and resilience of the Indonesian people will pull you through once more.
Let me begin with a simple statement: Indonesia is a part of me. I first came to this country when my mother married an Indonesian man named Lolo Soetoro. As a young boy, I was coming to a different world. But the people of Indonesia quickly made me feel at home.
Jakarta looked very different in those days. The city was filled with buildings that were no more than a few stories tall. The Hotel Indonesia was one of the few high rises, and there was just one brand new shopping center called Sarinah. Betchaks outnumbered automobiles in those days, and the highway quickly gave way to unpaved roads and kampongs.
We moved to Menteng Dalam, where we lived in a small house with a mango tree out front. I learned to love Indonesia while flying kites, running along paddy fields, catching dragonflies, and buying satay and baso from the street vendors. Most of all, I remember the people – the old men and women who welcomed us with smiles; the children who made a foreigner feel like a neighbor; and the teachers who helped me learn about the wider world.
Because Indonesia is made up of thousands of islands, hundreds of languages, and people from scores of regions and ethnic groups, my times here helped me appreciate the common humanity of all people. And while my stepfather, like most Indonesians, was raised a Muslim, he firmly believed that all religions were worthy of respect. In this way, he reflected the spirit of religious tolerance that is enshrined in Indonesia’s Constitution, and that remains one of this country’s defining and inspiring characteristics.
I stayed here for four years – a time that helped shape my childhood; a time that saw the birth of my wonderful sister, Maya; and a time that made such an impression on my mother that she kept returning to Indonesia over the next twenty years to live, work and travel – pursuing her passion of promoting opportunity in Indonesia’s villages, particularly for women and girls. For her entire life, my mother held this place and its people close to her heart.
So much has changed in the four decades since I boarded a plane to move back to Hawaii. If you asked me – or any of my schoolmates who knew me back then – I don’t think any of us could have anticipated that I would one day come back to Jakarta as President of the United States. And few could have anticipated the remarkable story of Indonesia over these last four decades.
The Jakarta that I once knew has grown to a teeming city of nearly ten million, with skyscrapers that dwarf the Hotel Indonesia, and thriving centers of culture and commerce. While my Indonesian friends and I used to run in fields with water buffalo and goats, a new generation of Indonesians is among the most wired in the world – connected through cell phones and social networks. And while Indonesia as a young nation focused inward, a growing Indonesia now plays a key role in the Asia Pacific and the global economy.
This change extends to politics. When my step-father was a boy, he watched his own father and older brother leave home to fight and die in the struggle for Indonesian independence. I’m happy to be here on Heroes Day to honor the memory of so many Indonesians who have sacrificed on behalf of this great country.
When I moved to Jakarta, it was 1967, a time that followed great suffering and conflict in parts of this country. Even though my step-father had served in the Army, the violence and killing during that time of political upheaval was largely unknown to me because it was unspoken by my Indonesian family and friends. In my household, like so many others across Indonesia, it was an invisible presence. Indonesians had their independence, but fear was not far away.
In the years since then, Indonesia has charted its own course through an extraordinary democratic transformation – from the rule of an iron fist to the rule of the people. In recent years, the world has watched with hope and admiration, as Indonesians embraced the peaceful transfer of power and the direct election of leaders. And just as your democracy is symbolized by your elected President and legislature, your democracy is sustained and fortified by its checks and balances: a dynamic civil society; political parties and unions; a vibrant media and engaged citizens who have ensured that – in Indonesia -- there will be no turning back.
But even as this land of my youth has changed in so many ways, those things that I learned to love about Indonesia – that spirit of tolerance that is written into your Constitution; symbolized in your mosques and churches and temples; and embodied in your people – still lives on. Bhinneka Tunggal Ika – unity in diversity. This is the foundation of Indonesia’s example to the world, and this is why Indonesia will play such an important role in the 21st century.
So today, I return to Indonesia as a friend, but also as a President who seeks a deep and enduring partnership between our two countries. Because as vast and diverse countries; as neighbors on either side of the Pacific; and above all as democracies – the United States and Indonesia are bound together by shared interests and shared values.
Yesterday, President Yudhoyono and I announced a new, Comprehensive Partnership between the United States and Indonesia. We are increasing ties between our governments in many different areas, and – just as importantly – we are increasing ties among our people. This is a partnership of equals, grounded in mutual interests and mutual respect.
With the rest of my time today, I’d like to talk about why the story I just told – the story of Indonesia since the days when I lived here – is so important to the United States, and to the world. I will focus on three areas that are closely related, and fundamental to human progress – development, democracy, and religion.
First, the friendship between the United States and Indonesia can advance our mutual interest in development.
When I moved to Indonesia, it would have been hard to imagine a future in which the prosperity of families in Chicago and Jakarta would be connected. But our economies are now global, and Indonesians have experienced both the promise and perils of globalization: from the shock of the Asian financial crisis in the 1990s to the millions lifted out of poverty. What that means – and what we learned in the recent economic crisis – is that we have a stake in each other’s success.
America has a stake in an Indonesia that is growing, with prosperity that is broadly shared among the Indonesian people – because a rising middle class here means new markets for our goods, just as America is a market for yours. And so we are investing more in Indonesia, our exports have grown by nearly 50 percent, and we are opening doors for Americans and Indonesians to do business with one another.
America has a stake in an Indonesia that plays its rightful role in shaping the global economy. Gone are the days when seven or eight countries could come together to determine the direction of global markets. That is why the G-20 is now the center of international economic cooperation, so that emerging economies like Indonesia have a greater voice and bear greater responsibility. And through its leadership of the G-20’s anti-corruption group, Indonesia should lead on the world stage and by example in embracing transparency and accountability.
America has a stake in an Indonesia that pursues sustainable development, because the way we grow will determine the quality of our lives and the health of our planet. That is why we are developing clean energy technologies that can power industry and preserve Indonesia’s precious natural resources – and America welcomes your country’s strong leadership in the global effort to combat climate change.
Above all, America has a stake in the success of the Indonesian people. Underneath the headlines of the day, we must build bridges between our peoples, because our future security and prosperity is shared. That is exactly what we are doing – by increased collaboration among our scientists and researchers, and by working together to foster entrepreneurship. And I am especially pleased that we have committed to double the number of American and Indonesian students studying in our respective countries – we want more Indonesian students in our schools, and more American students to come study in this country, so that we can forge new ties that last well into this young century.
These are the issues that really matter in our daily lives. Development, after all, is not simply about growth rates and numbers on a balance sheet. It’s about whether a child can learn the skills they need to make it in a changing world. It’s about whether a good idea is allowed to grow into a business, and not be suffocated by corruption. It’s about whether those forces that have transformed the Jakarta that I once knew –technology and trade and the flow of people and goods – translate into a better life for human beings, a life marked by dignity and opportunity.
This kind of development is inseparable from the role of democracy.
Today, we sometimes hear that democracy stands in the way of economic progress. This is not a new argument. Particularly in times of change and economic uncertainty, some will say that it is easier to take a shortcut to development by trading away the rights of human beings for the power of the state. But that is not what I saw on my trip to India, and that is not what I see in Indonesia. Your achievements demonstrate that democracy and development reinforce one another.
Like any democracy, you have known setbacks along the way. America is no different. Our own Constitution spoke of the effort to forge a “more perfect union,” and that is a journey we have traveled ever since, enduring Civil War and struggles to extend rights to all of our citizens. But it is precisely this effort that has allowed us to become stronger and more prosperous, while also becoming a more just and free society.
Like other countries that emerged from colonial rule in the last century, Indonesia struggled and sacrificed for the right to determine your destiny. That is what Heroes Day is all about – an Indonesia that belongs to Indonesians. But you also ultimately decided that freedom cannot mean replacing the strong hand of a colonizer with a strongman of your own.
Of course, democracy is messy. Not everyone likes the results of every election. You go through ups and downs. But the journey is worthwhile, and it goes beyond casting a ballot. It takes strong institutions to check the concentration of power. It takes open markets that allow individuals to thrive. It takes a free press and an independent justice system to root out abuse and excess, and to insist upon accountability. It takes open society and active citizens to reject inequality and injustice.
These are the forces that will propel Indonesia forward. And it will require a refusal to tolerate the corruption that stands in the way of opportunity; a commitment to transparency that gives every Indonesian a stake in their government; and a belief that the freedom that Indonesians have fought for is what holds this great nation together.
That is the message of the Indonesians who have advanced this democratic story – from those who fought in the Battle of Surabaya 55 years ago today; to the students who marched peacefully for democracy in the 1990s, to leaders who have embraced the peaceful transition of power in this young century. Because ultimately, it will be the rights of citizens that will stitch together this remarkable Nusantara that stretches from Sabang to Merauke – an insistence that every child born in this country should be treated equally, whether they come from Java or Aceh; Bali or Papua.
That effort extends to the example that Indonesia sets abroad. Indonesia took the initiative to establish the Bali Democracy Forum, an open forum for countries to share their experiences and best practices in fostering democracy. Indonesia has also been at the forefront of pushing for more attention to human rights within ASEAN. The nations of Southeast Asia must have the right to determine their own destiny, and the United States will strongly support that right. But the people of Southeast Asia must have the right to determine their own destiny as well. That is why we condemned elections in Burma that were neither free nor fair. That is why we are supporting your vibrant civil society in working with counterparts across this region. Because there is no reason why respect for human rights should stop at the border of any country.
Hand in hand, that is what development and democracy are about – the notion that certain values are universal. Prosperity without freedom is just another form of poverty. Because there are aspirations that human beings share – the liberty of knowing that your leader is accountable to you, and that you won’t be locked up for disagreeing with them; the opportunity to get an education and to work with dignity; the freedom to practice your faith without fear or restriction.
Religion is the final topic that I want to address today, and – like democracy and development – it is fundamental to the Indonesian story.
Like the other Asian nations that I am visiting on this trip, Indonesia is steeped in spirituality – a place where people worship God in many different ways. Along with this rich diversity, it is also home to the world’s largest Muslim population – a truth that I came to know as a boy when I heard the call to prayer across Jakarta.
Just as individuals are not defined solely by their faith, Indonesia is defined by more than its Muslim population. But we also know that relations between the United States and Muslim communities have frayed over many years. As President, I have made it a priority to begin to repair these relations. As a part of that effort, I went to Cairo last June, and called for a new beginning between the United States and Muslims around the world – one that creates a path for us to move beyond our differences.
I said then, and I will repeat now, that no single speech can eradicate years of mistrust. But I believed then, and I believe today, that we have a choice. We can choose to be defined by our differences, and give in to a future of suspicion and mistrust. Or we can choose to do the hard work of forging common ground, and commit ourselves to the steady pursuit of progress. And I can promise you – no matter what setbacks may come, the United States is committed to human progress. That is who we are. That is what we have done. That is what we will do.
We know well the issues that have caused tensions for many years – issues that I addressed in Cairo. In the 17 months that have passed we have made some progress, but much more work remains to be done.
Innocent civilians in America, Indonesia, and across the world are still targeted by violent extremists. I have made it clear that America is not, and never will be, at war with Islam. Instead, all of us must defeat al Qaeda and its affiliates, who have no claim to be leaders of any religion – certainly not a great, world religion like Islam. But those who want to build must not cede ground to terrorists who seek to destroy. This is not a task for America alone. Indeed, here in Indonesia, you have made progress in rooting out terrorists and combating violent extremism.
In Afghanistan, we continue to work with a coalition of nations to build the capacity of the Afghan government to secure its future. Our shared interest is in building peace in a war-torn land – a peace that provides no safe-haven for violent extremists, and that provides hope for the Afghan people.
Meanwhile, we have made progress on one of our core commitments - our effort to end the war in Iraq. 100,000 American troops have left Iraq. Iraqis have taken full responsibility for their security. And we will continue to support Iraq as it forms an inclusive government and we bring all of our troops home.
In the Middle East, we have faced false starts and setbacks, but we have been persistent in our pursuit of peace. Israelis and Palestinians restarted direct talks, but enormous obstacles remain. There should be no illusions that peace and security will come easy. But let there be no doubt: we will spare no effort in working for the outcome that is just, and that is in the interest of all the parties involved: two states, Israel and Palestine, living side by side in peace and security.
The stakes are high in resolving these issues, and the others I have spoken about today. For our world has grown smaller and while those forces that connect us have unleashed opportunity, they also empower those who seek to derail progress. One bomb in a marketplace can obliterate the bustle of daily commerce. One whispered rumor can obscure the truth, and set off violence between communities that once lived in peace. In an age of rapid change and colliding cultures, what we share as human beings can be lost.
But I believe that the history of both America and Indonesia gives us hope. It’s a story written into our national mottos. E pluribus unum – out of many, one. Bhinneka Tunggal Ika – unity in diversity. We are two nations, which have travelled different paths. Yet our nations show that hundreds of millions who hold different beliefs can be united in freedom under one flag. And we are now building on that shared humanity – through the young people who will study in each other’s schools; through the entrepreneurs forging ties that can lead to prosperity; and through our embrace of fundamental democratic values and human aspirations..
Earlier today, I visited the Istiqlal mosque – a place of worship that was still under construction when I lived in Jakarta. I admired its soaring minaret, imposing dome, and welcoming space. But its name and history also speak to what makes Indonesia great. Istiqlal means independence, and its construction was in part a testament to the nation’s struggle for freedom. Moreover, this house of worship for many thousands of Muslims was designed by a Christian architect.
Such is Indonesia’s spirit. Such is the message of Indonesia’s inclusive philosophy, Pancasila. Across an archipelago that contains some of God’s most beautiful creations, islands rising above an ocean named for peace, people choose to worship God as they please. Islam flourishes, but so do other faiths. Development is strengthened by an emerging democracy. Ancient traditions endure, even as a rising power is on the move.
That is not to say that Indonesia is without imperfections. No country is. But here can be found the ability to bridge divides of race and region and religion – that ability to see yourself in all individuals. As a child of a different race coming from a distant country, I found this spirit in the greeting that I received upon moving here: Selamat Datang. As a Christian visiting a mosque on this visit, I found it in the words of a leader who was asked about my visit and said, “Muslims are also allowed in churches. We are all God’s followers.”
That spark of the divine lies within each of us. We cannot give in to doubt or cynicism or despair. The stories of Indonesia and America tell us that history is on the side of human progress; that unity is more powerful than division; and that the people of this world can live together in peace. May our two nations work together, with faith and determination, to share these truths with all mankind.
Note: I feel like strongly shared this video especially addressing this to all Indonesians around my age who read my blog. What I want to emphasize is we should be really proud to be the Indonesian young people who have the abilities to bridge divides of race and region and religion. This speech should really encourage us to take the responsibility as the next generation to embrace the wings of our country to every part of the world in the future. And the again, we have to be proud to be Indonesians, as the matter of fact Obama who just lived in Indonesia for 4 years could say so many outrageous things about this country, therefore we could, should, would do more than that, moreover we live here, we understand and we are the country not only as the part of it. And the last words I want to say is " Selamat Hari Pahlawan"! Eventough I am far away from home, but I will never forget what all the Indonesian heroes had done, otherwise I could not have been here, and Indonesia would have never been existed as an independence country. I want to close my post with this speech by our founding father and First President said " Bangsa yang besar adalah bangsa yang menghargai sejarahnya dan tidak pernah melupakannya sejarah bangsanya sendiri ( A great nation is a nation that appreciates its history and never forgets it). HAPPY HERO'S DAY!
Friday, 1 October 2010
Yesterday morning, I just had an interview with Mount Holyoke, a women liberal art college in the United State, rated as 5th Best Woman College in USA by Forbes 2009. The college came to our school (United World College of Adriatic) the day before and giving a general presentation. There were also other four colleges/universities which were Skidmore College, University of Richmond, University of Wesleyan and Carleton College. It was my first time attending a presentation too, since two weeks ago when beforehand Macalister came to the college I was in Germany therefore I couldn’t come. Skidmore and Mount Holyoke called my interest the most. Since Ken the man from Skidmore said that their college was good at journalism and writing which I want to study, and Mount Holyoke, since it is a woman college. Darcy is the young woman who came from Mt. Holyoke, an alumnae and staff, to be honest when she hadn’t said anything I didn’t know that Mount Holyoke was a women college, but after she said that, I said “That’s the reason why she looks so independent and smart”. I have reasons why. I studied in a girl high school in Jakarta its age is 150 years, my junior high school used to be a girl school too, but they went co-ed, so I am familiar with this thing. Since I entered junior high school I had planned and prepared myself to go to my former high school (as I remember I was not accepted for its junior high). My reason to study there is I know that school, if I can mention name it is Santa Ursula High School, will give me the best education in the country and will prepare me as a young, socially intelligent and independent woman to lead the future, therefore that would be again my reason to make an application to a woman college this year.
You don’t need to ask how independent a young lady in a woman institution can be. To decide studying in a school with no gentlemen is already such the boldest decision ever made. This might be the worry of every dad in the world, which also my dad’s, because he knows me as a daughter who never had a relationship with boys, which is not right. He knew that some boys have tried to get into me but I attached to none since I just put a little bit higher standard from an already decent level. We woman and man, cannot deny that in this age is when the most attraction occurs. This period is the moment to get the most fun in life, but still there are so many ways to spend a fun time. I don’t know how this perception about men are stronger than women in the Western World perceived, but for me, in a girls school that stereotype is no longer true. We, women are as strong as men, we move our heavy tables, chairs, we do as good sport as men do, technically we don’t necessarily need man for that kind of occasion, we can do it ourselves And one more important thing is our brain is as heavy as man or moreover heavier. Well at least I can say it my former school that we are always at the highest rank for the National Examination in the country compare to another good all boys school and public schools. Why we can do that? Because we know when we go to school we want to study, not to flirt with boys or seeking for attention. We get enough attention from the other girls who physically compliment us; we love everybody's dresses, style, hairpins, watches, and bags.
From my writing, you might get an impression that woman in a girl institution doesn’t have interaction with boys, who says? Well I think, studying in a school like that gave us opportunity to expand our networking outside and be friends with anybody. I would like to tell this, sometimes another students feel reluctant to be friends with us because they think we are girls with very top standards and all, which is not hundred percent true. There are also thousands of events that facilitate all schools to at least meet and see each other like sport, music and scientific events. Many students who study in a co-educational school go along more with their own gender and form a group based on a gender.
But this is a university; it is not just high school? Well then again back to the aim of going to a school, college or university is to get the best education, learn as much as we can and built up a contagious community. Are you afraid on not getting a boyfriend in your age 20s? Let me tell you something, or maybe this what I learn from my high school, a man respects woman with a deep thought, good manner and leadership skill, which a woman institution always prepared their students for. We, women have to be well prepared to argue, dominate, lead and to raise up another women. In every woman college without doubt, we are prepared to be a future leader not only to be ready to face the future. We are prepared to be a woman who will be able to bring change in community and worldwide. We are prepared to be a real ‘woman on top’ in the field that we are going to work at. So, girls, woman college, why not?
Saturday, 11 September 2010
Haven't blogged for such a long time, no? Yeah, college life is just treating me busy. Studying has not really started tho, but so many insignificant stuffs to do. Anyway, I am back in Ital. y since last 28th of August. The first days, I spent it by picking up primi. The Thai, The Indo and the East Timor. I went to Venice for three times in a week, less in a week even more, about 5 days. You think I am going there to see the beautiful gondolas? Uh, uh, NOPE. I took a direct train and bus to Venice Marcopolo Airport, two in a row for 6 hours everyday, went back and forth. But yeah that cheesy moment waiting for primi is over. Just want to give you a very short information about things in college now.
1 I live in Foresteria with Sne and Nora as my roommates.
2. We did Intro show and first open Mike already.
3. I love my fabulous friends Ilana, Anya, Urska, Hilda, Sne and Nora (we just had a sushi day out last night!!).
4. Hmmm, what else? I enjoy it so much.
11 Things Every Girl Should Hold Out For
I’m holding out for a guy with a sense of adventure as well as a big sense of humor. Since I’m in between relationships at the moment, I’ve had some time to think about what I want and don’t want in a future partner. It helps, too, that I’ve had ample opportunity to observe all of my friends and their relationships. So I made a list of some must-haves we single ladies should be looking for. Well, not just looking for, but holding out for. Here’s what is non-negotiable:
1. A guy who can make you laugh.
Some things in life are not funny. Can he make you at least chuckle when the chips are down?
2. A guy who will laugh at your jokes and “get” you.
He might not understand you perfectly on the first date, but if you think you’re funny at all, I hope he gets that and appreciates it about you. Otherwise, you could be Kathy Griffin and you’ll still be laughing alone your whole life. Well, she's single. But I mean, if Kathy Griffin were—whatever!
3. A guy who will attend your lame “things.”
Adult dance recital, Mom’s birthday party? Find the guy who will go to something boring even though he will get nothing out of it—but he'll go for you.
4. A guy who will do nothing with you.
And I mean Nothing. If you’re feeling low-energy, anti-social, or blah, can he sit and do nothing with you or does he always leave you on the couch and go party with the guys? And could you two entertain each other on a deserted island or while stuck in traffic?
5. A guy who will give you a thoughtful gift or card.
Not every time, obviously, but I would hope this dude would have his moments of showing you he has thought about you.
6. A guy who will say he loves you.
I do not care about his made-up theory that love is just a social construct or what have you. Hold out for someone who can and will say it. Also, he shouldn’t say it just because you want him to; he should say it because it feels good to say it.
7. A guy you respect.
Does he have a good head on his shoulders? Does he generally like his job? Is he proud of himself? Let’s hope so, ‘cause if you think he’s a lazy idiot, you’ll end up resenting him.
I asked some of my friends what they held out for, and this is what they told me….
8. A guy you have good chemistry with.
He doesn’t have to be Jude Law, but you should be attracted enough so that every time you have an argument, you will be motivated (by your underlying desire for him!) to work it out.
9. A guy who agrees with you about travel.
If you have wanderlust and he never wants to leave his hometown, don’t compromise by staying with him long-term and staying home. It’s fine to be a homebody, but if you're interested in exploring, find a guy with the travel bug. Otherwise, you’ll look back one day when you’re too old, tired, or broke and you'll wish you had seen the world.
10. A guy with similar family goals. Don’t compromise on whether or not you’ll have kids. If you want them, find a guy who does. Me, I don’t get serious with guys who say “maybe” they want kids. I want someone who feels as sure as I do—and I can't talk anyone in or out of anything.
And finally, the best one—of course, comes from my wise friend Melissa:
11. “Wait for someone who sees you the way you want to be seen.
He thinks you’re smart, funny, beautiful and powerful—always. Even on days when you can’t believe any of that about yourself.”
That’s a good one! Can’t wait for that.
What are you holding out for?
taken from Teresia Monike's FB account
Thursday, 26 August 2010
Not affordable for a student like ME.
Dear mom and dad, I will study harder this year I promise and make you two proud of me.
from my job. I don't know, maybe discounts or buy one get one free. Work in a great magazine or newspaper or tv channel. Something that is pleasant for me. So far I just can say thanks mom and dad for everything, I will find a way to repay - make you two proud of me =)
After going out with my family today to try the wedding gown for my aunty, I was in the mood for love. And I found this on my tumblr archives. Hello all the boys out there, THERE ARE THOUSAND OF WAY SAYING I LOVE YOU!! BE CREATIVE!!!!!!
- I adore you.
- I am infatuated with you.
- I appreciate you.
- I can’t live without you.
- I can’t stop thinking about you when we’re apart.
- I cherish you.
- I dream of you.
- I live for our love.
- I love being around you.
- I need you by my side.
- I need you.
- I respect you.
- I value you.
- I want a lifetime with you.
- I want you.
- I worship you.
- I yearn for you.
- I’m a better person because of you.
- I’m blessed to have you in my life.
- I’m devoted to you.
- I’m fond of you.
- I’m lost without you.
- I’m nothing without you.
- I’m passionate about you.
- I’m thankful for you.
- I’m yours.
- Me and you. Always.
- My love is unconditional.
- Our love is invaluable.
- Take me, I’m yours.
- The thought of you brings a smile to my face.
- Ti tengu cara (to female) or Ti tengu caru (to male).
- Together, forever.
- We were meant to be together.
- You are a blessing in disguise.
- You are an angel from God.
- You are like a candle burning bright.
- You are my crush.
- You are my dear.
- You are my everything.
- You are my heart’s desire.
- You are my life.
- You are my one and only.
- You are my one true love.
- You are my reason for living.
- You are my strength.
- You are my sunshine.
- You are my treasure.
- You are my world.
- You are precious.
- You are the light of my life.
- You are the reason I’m alive.
- You bring happiness to rainy days.
- You bring joy to my life.
- You cast a spell on me that can’t be broken.
- You complete me.
- You drive me wild.
- You fill me with desire.
- You fill my heart.
- You give me wings to fly.
- You had me from hello.
- You hold the key to my heart.
- You inspire me.
- You intoxicate me.
- You lift me up to touch the sky.
- You light my flame.
- You light up my life.
- You make me hot.
- You make my heart skip a beat.
- You make my world a better place.
- You mean the world to me.
- You motivate me.
- You rock my world.
- You seduce me.
- You set my heart on fire.
- You simply amaze me.
- You stole my heart.
- You sweeten my sour days.
- You turn my world upside down.
- You turn the darkness into light.
- You’re a dream come true.
- You’re a gem.
- You’re a twinkle in my eye.
- You’re absolutely wonderful.
- You’re all I want.
- You’re as beautiful as a sunset.
- You’re beautiful.
- You’re charming.
- You’re enchanting.
- You’re heavenly.
- You’re my angel.
- You’re my perfect match.
- You’re one in a million.
- You’re priceless.
- You’re sexy.
- You’re the apple of my eye.
- You’re the best thing that ever happened to me.
- You’re the best.
- You’re the diamond in the rough.
- You’re the one for me.
- You’re the one I’ve always wished for.
Tuesday, 24 August 2010
AND THIS IS MY FAVORITE OF ALL!
So this afternoon, before I went out for shopping, as usual I played on my tumblr, (cool tumblr alert) then I saw a really cute picture and I re-blogged it. As I remember, I once saw that my uncle had this huge shopping bag ( as the matter of fact, all my family members here shopped a lot since my another uncle is getting married on September). And yeah, my creative part of the brain popped out - I SHOULD MAKE ONE TOO! As you can see! I love all those photos that I took using self timer at that moment. I think I took about 15 and the third picture, I put them as my profile picture on Facebook. With a title..
I found out this picture on my facebook! Ah, I miss them but it is ok, they are replaced!
(Unlike clothes, you can find the replacements for several times)
That´s the sweetest thing that one had done for me. Maybe there are some too, but I don´t remember, since it happened last February this year. Not that I want to spoil the memory, but I just found this photo on my tumblr dashboard. Yeah so the story was this guy asked me to be his girlfriend last Valentine, even tho he was refused. But when it comes to things like love, I can say I am a more old fashion lover girl, in a way I will be happier if someone ask me to be my boyfriend to live a relationship, that´d be really sweet so that we will celebrate the anniversary everrrrr-y months! Help me, I am UP, USIA PANICK!! That´s in Indonesian =)
" WILL YOU BE MY GIRL?!!"
Monday, 23 August 2010
The weather was hot and cold. There was a little number of thunders. Offenbach skies. It was raining then it stopped. Then it continued it stopped. Then after all, when all this pull and push moment ended the sky was on my side. It was really beautiful, as it was in movies. Remind me a lot of couples kissing when it was sunset. Poor me, I was alone. It´s fine you gotta find one soon. I thought the galaxy was all mine and I captured it all. Offenbach skies, it was beautiful!
Friday, 20 August 2010
Hello. I am now in Frankfurt. I just flew from Italy, which the day before I just arrived from Jakarta. I had such a adventurous yet stressing day yesterday...
I had a bad-bad day yesterday. Came to take care my permesso too early, come back again and had to wait 10 numbers long, missed the 5pm train, the 6.19 train was arrived late therefore missed the last bus to Treviso Airport, asking avery nice Italian woman to pick me up to the airport, welcomed by a really long line to check in, caught I was bringing a camera bag outside,meeting a really nice random Mexican guy who talked a lot and smelled like weed on the plane, get off from the airport found out that Germany was cold likewinter,was transferred to the other bus because the bus was broken and soon on.. Anyway, here I am safely just had breakfast at mygrandparents´ house, eating Nasi goreng!
(taken from my Facebook note)
;-) So from now on, my blogs will smell about Europe and my life back in Italy. And put it at very first place, to inspire you all. Hope you keep on updates!
Monday, 9 August 2010
We're going to the beach today
We're gonna laugh and sing our cares away
The sun is shining on our face
We can take it in and let it out and say...
La, la-la, la-la, la-la
La, la-la, la-la, la-la
La, la-la, la-la, la-la
La, la-la, la-la, la-la
I do enjoy my time with you
Making the best of everything we do
We're gonna try on something new
And we'll make it ours before the day is through
And now the sun has said goodnight
Just want to say I had a real good time
I think I really feel all right (all right)
I don't ever ever wanna say goodbye
La, la-la, la-la, la-la
La, la-la, la-la, la-la
Saturday, 31 July 2010
The photo gallery is next to this building. Unfortunately this old historical building are being thrown away , seems that the government doesn't consider this as an "assets"
Naples / Napoli. Pretty much reminds me of my Project Week, the most cultural one! I think I have the pictures of those statues too taken by myself.
Primo getting excited to explore the country where he is going to spend his life for the next two years. Congratulation, Prim!